On Saturday, I watched my "little boy" graduate from Ravenwood High School. Simply because his last name starts with "B", he was in charge of leading one side of the processional entry in the graduation ceremony. The moment I saw this 6'2" son of mine walking down the aisle as the graduation music played, dressed in his red robe and red hat, with the hundreds of other students in tow, I caught my breath. Up until this point, only my mind had accepted this milestone of his, but now my heart was involved.As I sat through the different graduation speeches, there was a  gentle whispering in my soul: remember who you are. This phrase took me back in time because I have spoken it to each of my kids over the years, especially when they leave one familiar place and walk into another. The culture, the media, and their peers persistently shout to each of them, telling them who they are "supposed to be"; but they too, must choose to be still and listen to the whispering truth that resides within their soul.When my older son Bink entered high school (he is now 21), I wrote words to define the phrase remember who you are; nothing fundamentally has changed over the passing years, except that my stake in the ground has been steadfastly pounded more firmly and more deeply. These words are for you as well, my fellow believer:‍

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REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE

I am what the world calls a "Jesus freak," but what I call "saved by grace."I am living for the One who died for me.

I salt the earth with His kindness; I light the world with His love.

I choose to walk by faith and not by sight, and to dance to the beat of a different drum.

I am the one who has Power beyond my own strength, Peace beyond my own understanding, and Purpose beyond my own ambitions.

I am the one who answers to the Commander of the Universe; and yet, I am also calmed by His Spirit that lives in me.

Because of Christ Jesus, I am living Life to the fullest--yesterday, today, and FOREVER.

I am changed; I am more than I am.I am a vessel that holds a treasure, a lamp that shines a light, and a well that springs a fountain.

And with these abiding truths, I am the one who is pursuing YOU, my friend, the way He has passionately pursued me. I am His ambassador. I am His image bearer. I am His messenger.

By the grace of God, I am who I am.

I am a Christ follower. I am free.

So, as I sat in the midst of thousands of hopeful parents as well as supportive loved ones, all of us peering down into a sea of bright red robes, I found myself wanting to shout at the top of my lungs to my gentle giant sitting in the first chair, first row, "Davey, always, always, always remember who you are."

For the past four days, I've had the privilege of having all four of my kids at home at the same time; the older they get, the less frequently this happens. We shared a few meals together, as well as laughter and love. No doubt, this momma cherished every minute.

And then yesterday, my 23 year old, Maggie, drove off to begin her first (short term) job as a registered nurse in Georgia. And this morning, my 21 year old, Bink, headed back to Haiti to serve at Hands and Feet for the summer months.

I think I can safely say that a common parental goal is to raise and then launch our kids as God-dependent, parent-independent, confident, Light bearing contributers to society, right? Why then, if they seem to be heading down this path, does it still bring an ache to my heart when I see them drive or fly away?

In contemplating the answer to the above question, I came to the NOT NEW conclusion that mothering is, and forever will be, a mixed bag of emotions. Over the span of almost two and a half decades in this non-paying job, I have been stretched to the limit, humbled to my kness, a jet stream of "wisdom", completely dumbfounded, overjoyed, underappreciated, really happy, really really angry, perplexed, at great peace, hysterical with laughter, just plain hysterical, utterly exhausted, delightfully surprised, momma-bear defensive, teddy bear affectionate, frustated beyond belief, content without questions; and then, this list cycles back around, and around. Can anyone relate?

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In spite all of these conflicting emotions, however, we moms steadfstly press on.

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So from one mother to another,  I would like to "gift" you with a few hopeful encouraging charges, taken from my weathered and worn mixed bag. Of course, these words of wisdom were graciously given to me when I was in the thick of things; I'm just passing them along to you:Give your kids TIME, give them your TOUCH, give them your TREASURE, and give them your "TALK".

I love my Mother; she gives and keeps giving!

‍TIME--no agenda on your part, no "let me fix you while we are here together"--just you, your loving, listening presence

‍TOUCH--hugs and high fives--touch brings healing--Jesus did this all the time

‍TREASURE-- a note on your child's pillow, her favorite little "happy", his favorite meal

‍TALK-- talk to your children a lot about your God, and talk to your God a lot about your children...teach and pray, two daily essentials (for more detail, see: A Mother's Privilege respitefortheweary.com)

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Press into this job, mothers; it's one of the highest callings on this earth. There will be a return, God promises. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed dow, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Luke 6:38

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‍Someday, your children will rise up and call you blessed. Proverbs 31:28

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‍You can do this moms. Stay the course. Your children need YOU.

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And now, it is with a little sadness in my heart over my older kids' departures, mixed with a joyful desire for each of you to love your kids well,  that I want to genuinely proclaim, "Have a HAPPY Mother's Day!"For the past four days, I’ve had the privilege of having all four of my kids at home at the same time; the older they get, the less frequently this happens. We shared a few meals together, as well as laughter and love. No doubt, this momma cherished every minute.

And then yesterday, my 23 year old, Maggie, drove off to begin her first (short term) job as a registered nurse in Georgia. And this morning, my 21 year old, Bink, headed back to Haiti to serve at Hands and Feet for the summer months.

I think I can safely say that a common parental goal is to raise and then launch our kids as God-dependent, parent-independent, confident, Light bearing contributers to society, right? Why then, if they seem to be heading down this path, does it still bring an ache to my heart when I see them drive or fly away?

In contemplating the answer to the above question, I came to the NOT NEW conclusion that mothering is, and forever will be, a mixed bag of emotions. Over the span of almost two and a half decades in this non-paying job, I have been stretched to the limit, humbled to my kness, a jet stream of “wisdom”, completely dumbfounded, overjoyed, underappreciated, really happy, really really angry, perplexed, at great peace, hysterical with laughter, just plain hysterical, utterly exhausted, delightfully surprised, momma-bear defensive, teddy bear affectionate, frustated beyond belief, content without questions; and then, this list cycles back around, and around. Can anyone relate?

In spite all of these conflicting emotions, however, we moms steadfstly press on.

So from one mother to another,  I would like to “gift” you with a few hopeful encouraging charges, taken from my weathered and worn mixed bag. Of course, these words of wisdom were graciously given to me when I was in the thick of things; I’m just passing them along to you:

Give your kids TIME, give them your TOUCH, give them your TREASURE, and give them your “TALK”.

I love my Mother; she gives and keeps giving!

TIME–no agenda on your part, no “let me fix you while we are here together”–just you, your loving, listening presence
TOUCH–hugs and high fives–touch brings healing–Jesus did this all the time
TREASURE— a note on your child’s pillow, her favorite little “happy”, his favorite meal
TALK— talk to your children a lot about your God, and talk to your God a lot about your children…teach and pray, two daily essentials (for more detail, see: A Mother’s Privilege respitefortheweary.com)

Press into this job, mothers; it’s one of the highest callings on this earth. There will be a return, God promises. Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed dow, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Luke 6:38

Someday, your children will rise up and call you blessed. Proverbs 31:28

You can do this moms. Stay the course. Your children need YOU.

And now, it is with a little sadness in my heart over my older kids’ departures, mixed with a joyful desire for each of you to love your kids well,  that I want to genuinely proclaim, “Have a HAPPY Mother’s Day!”

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Many of you who are reading this post also receive my sister Peggy's devotionals via email subscription (www.livinlively.com). Through our ministry together with HopeWalking, we have commited to taking turns in writing posts on a weekly basis throughout the year for our readers; she writes one week, and then I write one week, and so on.

Peggy and I were commenting on the phone the other day about how we occasionally experience writer's block with these posts. We both ageed that our individual statement/plea when this happens becomes, "Okay God, I got nothin'...". We laughed together, saying that's when we should look up the word nothingin the back of our bibles and just go with it.

And so this morning, it's my turn to write. And because there is nothing in my head, I looked up nothing in the bible...

I now know there are 72 verses in my concordance that mention nothing. I jotted down a dozen or so of these, and wish I could write about each one (see the photo and choose some to look up if they intrigue you). These are the ones I picked in order to portray the gospel story:

For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out.  Romans 7:18

...Christ Jesus, who, though He was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made Himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. Philippians 2:5-7

We know that our old self was crucified with Him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin. Romans 6:6

...apart fom Me you can do nothing. John 15:5

For truly, I say to you, if you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, "Move from here to there,' and it will move, and nothing will be impossible for you."  Matthew 17:20

Whom have I in heaven but You? And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides You. My flesh and my heart fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.  Psalm 25-26

Wow. I am so full of nothing right now that ... my cup overflows. Psalm 23:5

So it is with a full heart at the finish of this post that I can sincerely say,Thank You God for giving me nothing. Amen

Let's face it, we live in a me first culture. On one hand, it's quite a natural response: we feed ourselves when we're hungry, we shower when we're dirty, we sleep when we're tired… we just do things for ourselves.But the me first mentality can grow dangerously beyond this instinctive disposition. It's the push and shove to be the best, it's the looking out for your own personal gain, or the lifestyle of "I'm gonna do what I wanna do in spite of how it affects others" that can cause strife to so many. And when there is a multitude of me-firsters in the same place, all going at life with their own selfish vigor, it can be a social war zone, in marriages, in families, and in the workplace.So how do we combat the seductive monster of SELF CENTERED LIVING?Jesus.He did things differently.…He first loved us. I John 4:19When Jesus came to earth, the King of kings and Lord of lords didn't flaunt His power over the weak. The unblemished Holy One didn't trample underfoot the lowly. The all Wise and Knowing One didn't shame the ignorant. No, He first… loved us.And what was the depth of His love?But God demonstrates His own love toward us in this: While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8There is no greater sacrifice from a no greater God-Man towards a no greater company of me firsters.Without question, it is God's will for you to be the absolute best you can be in the area of gifting in which He has blessed you. But at the same time, put your agenda down (or the agenda you have for your spouse, or for your children); don't climb another rung of the culture's egocentric ladder. Instead, stop and look around. Someone may need the Jesus that lives in you. Do what He did; He first loved.Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus. Phil. 2:3-5I am convinced, embracing the He first mindset will change the direction of your life, for the better.

I'm sure all are familiar with the term "3D" when it comes to watching a movie. Well, I would like to propose the term "3Be" when it comes to living your life. Let me explain:Be Still-- God implores each of us, Be still and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10The flip side of this verse implies that when we're not still, we lose sight of God. This simple verse calls us to not just slow down, but to stop. Stop the spin…stop the RAT race (properly termed), and simply take time to meditate on God. When doing so, we come away knowing Him. As a result, our perspective changes. Instead of focusing on our big problems and frantically asking a "small" God to help, we gaze upon on a huge GOD, peacefully knowing that He can take care of all our needs.One thing I asked of the Lord, that will I seek after; that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to gaze upon the beauty of the Lord and to inquire in his temple. Psalm 27:4Being still and gazing on the Lord is NOT a waste of time; it's a blessing...Be Loved-- When we are still before the Lord, we can live up to our given name, be-loved. See the connection of being still and being loved in these passages:Unless the Lord builds the house they labor in vain who build it… It is in vain that you rise up early and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil; for he gives to His beloved even in his sleep. Ps 127:1-2The beloved of the Lord dwells in safety. The High God surrounds him all day long, and dwells between His shoulders. Duet. 33:12Remember true life begins with Him loving you, not you loving Him (see I John 4:19). Rest in this truth, beloved, so you can...Be Thankful-- When we learn to be still, and to be loved, then our hearts can do nothing but be thankful! After meditating on who HE IS, and HIS GREAT LOVE FOR US, a heart of gratitude sincerely and abundantly develops:I will praise the name of God with a song; I will magnify Him with thanksgiving. Ps 69:30Give thanks always in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. I Thess. 5:18So dear friends, if you're spinning, stop; if you're in the rat race, make every effort to get out. Learn to live your daily life in Three Be: be still, be loved, and be thankful. You will not regret it! Because He promises, anyone who trusts in Him will never be disappointed. Rom. 10:11

It's important for our hearts as believers to take note of certain verses that are repetitive throughout the pages of biblical history. One such verse is this:

Oh give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; His lovingkindness is everlasting. (Psalm 107:1)

Here are just a few places in which this foundational truth shows up in scripture:

When King David brought the ark of the Lord into the tent, he gave a psalm of thanks to the Lord, which included: Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; for His lovingkindness is everlasting. ( I Chron. 16:34)

When the temple of Solomon was completed, and then dedicated to the Lord, fire came from heaven, and consumed the sacrifices; and then the temple was filled with the glory of the Lord. The people responded in reverential awe with these words: Truly He is good, truly His lovingkindness is everlasting. (II Chron. 7:3)

Before battle, when King Jehoshaphat was surrounded on all sides, he sought wisdom from the Lord in what to do; and the Lord instructed him and his people to stand firm in faith, and worship Him with these words, Give thanks to the Lord, for His lovingkindess is everlasting. (II Chron. 20:22) Interestingly, and wonder-fully, while the Israilites were singing and praising, the Lord set ambushes against their enemies and they were defeated (II Chron. 20:22).

This imperitive command, give thanks to the Lord, coupled with two irreversible truths about His character, for He is good; His lovingkindness is everlasting, was imprinted on the hearts God's people and sung from one generation to the next.  They are sprinkled throughout the psalms: Ps 100:4,5; 106:1; 107:1; 118:1, 29; 136:1.

Now it's our turn to sing these ancient words that are forever true. Will you join in the chorus?

Can you give thanks to the Lord right now? Even in the midst of trial or sorrow, believers in Christ can be thankful for this one incomprehensible gift: eternal life. Start here.

Do you believe with all your heart that the Lord is good? If you are doubting this fundamental truth, ask Him to remind you of His vast goodness, found both in His word and in your past walk with Him.

Do you know that His lovingkindness is everlasting? Again, if you don't feel His lovingkindness right now, go back to your faith. Stand firm and sing praisesat the foot of the cross, which is the epitome of everlasting lovingkindness.

As you sing this bedrock phrase over and over in your heart, rest with this amazing thought: the night that Jesus was crucified, he served the Lord's Supper to His disciples; afterwards,they sang a hymn together (see Mt. 26:30). Within the lines of this traditional Passover hymn, Jesus filled His lungs with absolute resolution and with a merciful melody for all mankind to hear:

The Lord is God, and He has given us light; bind the festival sacrifice with cords to the horns of the alter; You are My God, and I give thanks to You; You are my God, and I extol You; give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; for His lovingkindness is everlasting. Psalm 118:27-29