A couple of weeks ago, on a cold dreary day, I was cocooned in a blanket on my couch for my usual Saturday afternoon nap. With college football on in the background and my little dog nestled at my feet, I couldn’t help but feel the oncoming winter, not outside my home, but inside my soul. As I lay there, I was talking to God about it, saying, “O God, here it comes…that old familiar gloom that I’m going to wrestle, off and on, for the next several months. Please GIVE me something to help me move forward in this season.”
Wrapped in my blanket, he unfolded a plan.
Before I go further, I want to empathize with all of you who deal with depression of some kind. And also, I want to ask for grace from those of you who do not. A way to explain a depressed spirit is to compare it to a rainy day. When it’s raining outside, one cannot say, “It’s not raining.” Likewise, someone who is dealing with depression, is indeed depressed. To say, “Get over it”, is defeating on many levels.
We may not get over it, but with God’s strength, we can function in it. Just like opening an umbrella, putting on a rain jacket, and stepping into galoshes all help shield us from physical rain, these steps below can help you and me when the gloom creeps in.
Here is the unfolding that took place as I lay listening to the Lord. Its outline is the acronym GIVE:
G–Give yourself grace, one day at a time. Do what you can do that day. Also “G” stands for these things: Get sleep–so important! Get dressed–I mean that spiritually first. Spend time with the Lord every morning and let him speak truth into your heart. God’s word is my life-line. I need him to reroute my thinking EVERY morning. Also, Get dressed physically. Wash your face. Brush your teeth. Simply freshen up. Get out of your PJs (even if you’re putting on other comfy clothes). Here are your options: Get up or Give in. Choose to get up, and with grace, inch forward.
I–Initiate. Physically, do something productive. One day it may be as small as clearing the kitchen sink of dirty dishes; another day it may be to write a book! Again, grace for each new day. Also, Initiate relationally. Send one text that asks someone how they are doing or how you can pray for them. Or, make a phone call. Or, meet someone face to face. Think about somebody else rather than yourself. Get “willfully lost in the rain” by praying for dozens of people you know and love. Your choices are: Initiate… or isolate. Today, choose to Initiate.
V–claim Victory “in the rain”. The grey clouds may not stop rolling in and spilling out, but you can choose to be victorious as it pours. This is where my faith in Christ becomes my stronghold. HE is with me always as my closest Companion. I am never alone. He is light and love inside of me through his Spirit. His grace and strength move me forward no matter how I feel. In the rain, I can and I will rejoice. Victory in it, or victim of it. Ask the Lord to help you choose the former.
E–This is very practical: Eat well, Exercise regularly, Enjoy a wholesome hobby. Quite frankly, I really don’t like eating healthy foods, ugh. I’m trying to develop a taste for broccoli and other green things, but chips and chocolate will always be my favorites. In the aging process however, I’m much more aware of the adverse effects of unhealthy eating. Therefore, I’m inching forward in the nutrition department. Concerning, Exercise, just do it, says Nike. Pick something; anything is better than nothing. I walk with a friend and we pray together; this has been transformational for me in numerous ways and I highly recommend it to everyone. And then, Enjoy. What do you love to do? Make room for this activity (or non-activity; for example, I enjoy my Saturday afternoon nap, “watching” football with my husband.) Eat well, Exercise, Enjoy or… escape into unhealthy alternatives. Again, ask God to help you choose the former.
On that cold dreary day in November, I rolled over inside of my cozy blanket on the couch and thanked God for his detailed Counseling session. (To think, it was free!) And then a little later, I decided it was time to get up. I went to the kitchen and cleared the sink of the dirty dishes…claiming absolute victory, in the rain.