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He First, not Me First

Let’s face it, we live in a me first culture. On one hand, it’s quite a natural response: we feed ourselves when we’re hungry, we shower when we’re dirty, we sleep when we’re tired… we just do things for ourselves.

But the me first mentality can grow dangerously beyond this instinctive disposition. It’s the push and shove to be the best, it’s the looking out for your own personal gain, or the lifestyle of “I’m gonna do what I wanna do in spite of how it affects others” that can cause strife to so many. And when there is a multitude of me-firsters in the same place, all going at life with their own selfish vigor, it can be a social war zone, in marriages, in families, and in the workplace.

So how do we combat the seductive monster of SELF CENTERED LIVING?


He did things differently.

He first loved us. I John 4:19

When Jesus came to earth, the King of kings and Lord of lords didn’t flaunt His power over the weak. The unblemished Holy One didn’t trample underfoot the lowly. The all Wise and Knowing One didn’t shame the ignorant.  No, He first… loved us.

And what was the depth of His love?

But God demonstrates His own love toward us in this: While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8

There is no greater sacrifice from a no greater God-Man towards a no greater company of me firsters.

Without question, it is God’s will for you to be the absolute best you can be in the area of gifting in which He has blessed you. But at the same time, put your agenda down (or the agenda you have for your spouse, or for your children); don’t climb another rung of the culture’s egocentric ladder. Instead, stop and look around. Someone may need the Jesus that lives in you. Do what He did; He first loved.

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.  Phil. 2:3-5

I am convinced, embracing the He first mindset will change the direction of your life, for the better.