All Writings

Fill His Needs

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”
~Genesis 2:18

Dear Molly,

When you said the simple words, “I do” before God and man on your wedding day, you were committing yourself to the life-long privilege of being a helpmate to your husband. Realize this is now the first and foremost call in your life. This is God’s design for you. And you, Molly, are the one suitable for Ryan. In obedience to God, who knows best and has the best for our marriage, I encourage you to help your husband. He does need your help to be a better man, husband, and father. I have listed here ways we, as wives, are called to fill our husband’s needs:

Physically. I encourage you to go to Song of Solomon in Scripture and see the intimate relationship between husband and wife. Remember, this is a need of your husband. Fill it – often.

Emotionally. Please know and always remember your husband needs you to be his confidant, his “safe place.” Be quiet-spirited and listen to him. Then “put on kindness” towards him – kind words, kind ways. Being kind in your thoughts and actions concerning your husband will keep a sweet peace within the walls of your home. Make it your ambition to encourage (put courage in) him every day. “Pleasant words are as honeycomb; sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” Proverbs 16:24

Spiritually. Your husband needs you to grow spiritually. You are now “one flesh,” so when you grow, he grows. As you gain wisdom and knowledge concerning the love of Christ, you are able to speak into your husband’s heart and mind with words of life. Realize a woman has the amazing ability to persuade a man, for better or worse. Look at Scripture – Eve with Adam, Delilah with Samson, Sarah with Abraham, and more. I encourage you to speak into Ryan’s life wisely and selflessly. Seek God’s will first, and then speak into your husband’s life. In doing so, you will both receive a blessing from the hand of the Lord.

Ryan needs you, Molly – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. You have been given the high honor of helping your husband be all he was created to be.

Love, Chris

The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does
him good and not evil all the days of her life.
~Proverbs 31:11-12

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband.
~Proverbs 12:4